In november of last year I turned 30 and was thinking about how old I am and how much I have changed over the years so I decided to write this post about 30 things I have learned in 30 years.
Here we go I have learned ……
1. To be grateful
I have realized that being grateful leads to being happier. There are so many things we take for granted on a daily basis like having a roof over our head or having enough food to eat. That is not the case for a lot of people in this world and once you realize that you start appreciating the little things.
2. To go with the flow
We have this illusion that we can control what is happening to us but the truth is most of the time we have no control over anything. The only thing we can control is how we react to a situation that does not go according to plan. This is why I let things take their own course and see where it leads me.
3. To enjoy the present
I used to think about the future and start creating situations in my head and stress about them or think about the past.But I realized that thinking about the future is not helping me I don’t know what is going to happen. Why stress over something I have no control over. I was missing out on what was happening right now and wasting my time with fake scenarios rather than enjoying the time I had right now. It is important to live in the present because that’s in your control. The past is gone you can’t change it and the future is unknown so why not cherish what is happening right now before we regret how we wasted this time.
4. To be more patient
People always say good things come to those who wait and I couldn’t agree more. I have learned that being patient always pays off and everything worth having is worth waiting for. I believe that there is a fixed time for everything to happen and no matter how much we push or pull it will happen when it is meant to happen. And it is up to us how we spend the time while waiting.
5. To keep learning
The learning never ends. It’s very important to keep developing your skills. I have started to teach myself a new skill every now and then. I have already learned how to do embroidery and now I am working on drawing and painting and coding. Our brain is like a muscle it needs a little workout from time to time to keep functioning properly and we need to exercise the brain by keep on learning and keeping it engaged.
6. To keep myself busy
I have learned that keeping myself busy has been good for my mental health and as they say a life spend doing something good is a life we’ll spend. When I keep myself busy by learning or starting a new hobby I feel happier. It gives you a purpose.
7. The importance of sports
I have learned that being physically active is not only good for my physical health but it also has a positive impact on my mental health. A healthy body means a healthy mind. I have recently started doing yoga and I love it. It’s a combination between physical and mental exercise. I alway feel much better afterwards even if I do it for 20 min. a day.
8. The importance of meditation
Now a days we are so busy that we are heading here and there running around like crazy people. And sometimes we need a break to forget everything that is around us, to calm down, relax and bring our focus on what’s important. That is where meditation comes in. You just need to sit down, closing your eyes and focus on your breathing. It is like clicking the refresh button for your mind. Just a few minutes of meditation can refresh you and you can go back to work with more energy.
9. To be a believer
I have gotten closer to god, strengthen my believe and realized the importance of prayer. I trust that he knows best and will do what is best for me.
10. Expect nothing and appreciate everything
I have learned to not expect anything from anyone be it friends or family. Expectations are root of heartache. When you hope for a specific reaction or response and you get it, it’s very disappointing and leaves you heartbroken at times. But if in the same situation you don’t expect anything you will appreciate even the smallest gesture or response. We often have these expectations that curtain actions will lead to a curtain reaction but in reality this is not the case.
11. To be a mother
I have learned that you are never ready to be a mother until you become one. It’s the most magical thing that a woman can experience. And it’s an endless learning process. Every time I think I have figured it all out everything changes and I start from scratch. I am learning something new everyday.
12. What it means to be a housewife
I have learned that being a housewife is much more than being at home and doing nothing. The house doesn’t clean itself, the laundry needs to get done, meals need to be planned and cooked, groceries need to be bought and a lot of other stuff needs to be done as well of which I had no idea living with my parents before getting married and moving out. Needless to say I was shocked and now add a toddler into the mix. I am at home almost all day everyday and at the end of the day I am tired like I did labor or something. I have found a whole new appreciation for women who stay at home and make the lives of their family members esiers and a lot more for those who go to work come home and do more work. Hats off to you ladies.
13. That sometimes less is more
Quality over quantity pretty much sums it up. We tend to collect a lot of things over time that we don’t really need and could live without. That’s why I learned to declutter from time to time and get rid of stuff i haven’t used in a long time.
14. To remember death
I have learned the harsh truth that we will not be here forever and that the life as we know it and which we take for granted can end at anytime. I mean everyone knows that right. But really understanding what it really means is something different which you only learn by losing by someone you love. It puts a lot of things you do and how you live your life into perspective and makes you wonder if you are doing this life thing right or not.
15. To stand up for myself
I have learned to be my own defender and stand up for myself because no one else is going to do it for me. It is so important to know your self worth and not let anyone belittle you.
16. To ask for help
I have learned that it is okay to ask for help. You can not do everything yourself. We are only human and sometimes we need help and asking for it is not a sign of weakness rather it is a sign for a strong character that you know your limits and are not afraid to ask for help.
17. To only speak when needed
I have learned that words are like a weapon and when used at the wrong time at the wrong time can do a lot of damage. That’s why I am very conscious of when to speak and when it’s better to be silent.
18. That I am a To Do list person
I have learned that i am very visual person and to organise my thoughts I need to write everything down. Writing is like therapy for me. I need to make to do lists to get things done. Writing down things helps me to declutter my mind and organize my tasks.
19. Self Care is important
It is very important to take care of yourself because it you are not fit yourself how are you going to take of everyone around you. Self care can mean something else for everyone find your way of treating yourself and enjoy you deserve it.
20. to take responsibility
I have learned that when I make mistakes I need to take responsibility for them. Because it’s easy to find excuses and it’s a lot harder to be critical with yourself and hold yourself accountable for your actions. But once you do you are set up for success.
21. To say no
I have learned that saying no is also an art. I have always been a yes person and said yes to everyone and everything but I have realised that you don’t have to say yes to everything no matter you want to or not. It’s okay to say no and it doesn’t make you a bad person.
22. Not to judge
I will be honest I used to judge people and stereotype them but I have stopped doing that because you never know the whole story of what is going on behind the scenes and judging someone in a situation without any context is not fair. We all do have bad days and we do or say things out of frustration and we dont want to be judged for that so why do it to someone else.
23. Don’t hold grudges
I have learned that holding a grudge is only going to hurt you and keep you from being happy. So it’s better to let it go and move on in life because life is too short to punish yourself for something someone else has done. Karma will find them and take care of it. What goes around comes around.
24. You don’t have to like everyone
Some people we like and some we don’t and its okay that way. And likewise not everyone is going to like you and thats okay as well. Your perception might change after spending sometime with that person but even if it doesn’t it’s fine we don’t have to like everyone we meet.
25. You can’t make everyone happy
You can’t please everyone never could and never will. They will always find something to critics or disagree about. So I have learned to do whatever makes me happy because that’s what really matters.
26. Social media is toxic
Social media is a very toxic place where everyone only posts their highlights and makes other people feel bad about their life because the are going through something and don’t have a perfect life like those people. That’s why I limited my social media consumption and see it as a time wasting maschine.
27. Don’t compare yourself with others
In today’s day and age of social media comparison is more likely because everyone is sharing everything. But I have learned not to compare myself with anyone. Everyone has their own journey. Plus you don’t know how hard someone has worked to be where they are today. We only see the tip of the Iceberg which is where someone is today but what we don’t see is the Iceberg under water which represents the challenges and struggles the person had to go through to be where they are today. So. don’t compare your day 1 with someone else’s day 100. Comparison is the thief of joy.
28. Be honest
Honesty is the best policy. Being truthful will keep you away from trouble and people will be more likely to trust you. Lying will only get in trouble and push people away from you. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
29. That I have a green thumb
When I moved into my own place I got myself a little plant but I didn’t know if i would be able to take care of it properly but it survived and ever since my plant collection has been increasing. I love taking care of them and watching them grow.
30. What true love is
I have felt the purest form of love when I held my baby girl for the first time. It was love at first sight and it only increases since then. It is incredible that such a little human can make you fall in love with them in such a short period of time. And they become the most important person in your life. If that is not true love I don’t know what is.
Thank you for reading this very long post. What are some of your life lessons? Do let me know in the comments. I am looking forward to reading them 🙂